“Our value is the sum of our values” Joe Batten
Are you living in alignment with what matters most to you? Or are you experiencing a conflict somewhere in your life?
Whenever, we feel stuck, stressed, angry or frustrated, often it’s a sign that either we are not honouring what we value most in our lives, someone else isn’t honouring our values or our environment is in conflict with them. Continue reading
When it comes to goal setting there’s around 506,000,000 posts published on Google and a myriad of goal setting models and tools out there to help you achieve your goals.
Whether it’s to write that book, lose 20lbs, make more money or find a new job, it’s easy to lose the focus and motivation you need to stay on track unless you are truly emotionally attached to your goal. Continue reading
Think about your various roles and identities.
Which ones work for you? Which ones constrain you? Continue reading
Do you feel bored, stuck or unhappy in your career or other area of your life? Do you tone down, hide or play smaller than you are at work or any other area of your life, choosing to blend in instead of standing out?
If so, you may be repressing your most authentic YOU! Continue reading
Do you procrastinate, create endless to-do lists or get easily side-tracked by social media or housework so that you get to put off that important task or project that you’ve been meaning to get done?
Procrastination is one of the biggest blocks to productivity and creativity. Continue reading
“Resistance by definition is self-sabotage.” Steven Pressfield
Do you ever find that despite your best intentions you make little progress towards your goals before sliding back into old behaviours? Continue reading
How good are you at fitting in everything that you want or need to do each day?
Do you go through each day calmly moving from one activity to the next?
Or does it feel as though you never have enough time to get anything done? Continue reading
What do you think about a lot? Does the way you’re thinking make things more stressful or less stressful?
Our minds can get noisy. In fact it can be so overwhelming that it gets in the way of our goals. April is the perfect time to clear out the mental clutter – such as echoes of past failures, limiting beliefs, fears or other ‘stuff’ that is taking up valuable mind space. Continue reading
“A self-assured woman who is in control of her life draws like a magnet.” Susan Jeffers
Make It Happen being this year’s theme for International Women’s Day in March, celebrating the social, economic and political achievements of women, make it the perfect month to review what you most yearn for in your life and take bold action steps towards making it happen for you. Continue reading
If you’ve set yourself a goal for the year, have you taken a moment to check-in on how you really feel about it?
For example, if you’ve recently set yourself a goal you want to achieve this year do you feel excited by it? Do you feel motivated? Does it feel like the right goal for you? Or is there some resistance? Some anxiety?
When you set a goal that brings up conflicting emotions then it’s a great opportunity to explore a little deeper what’s going on with you beneath the surface.
Perhaps a big part of you really wants this goal but then there’s this niggling feeling or a nagging voice in the background holding you back from giving it all you’ve got.
What blocks our progress far more than any outer obstacle is our internal ‘junk’.
So what I mean by this? I’m talking about the excuses, the limiting beliefs, the fears, or old stories that keep us stuck.
If you feel even some slight resistance, here’s a really simple and effective way of identifying the ‘junk’ around your goal.
EXERCISE:
Write it down, say it out loud and pay attention to what comes up…
How does it feel? Are you 100% in alignment with it? Does it feel good? Does it feel exciting when you talk about your goal?
Or is there a part of you that doesn’t feel ready, doesn’t feel it’s possible. What does that tiny voice in the back of your head say? What are your concerns?
Is it encouraging you and cheering you on as you say your goal? Or do you feel some anxiety or resistance around it?
The most important thing is to acknowledge the truth of how you really feel and write it down.
Too often, we silence the uncomfortable feelings, doubts or fears brushing them under the carpet rather than trying to understand ourselves better and getting to heart of what is holding us back.
When we don’t acknowledge the truth of how we truly feel and we deny our real feelings, the junk doesn’t disappear – WE get stuck.
We also deny ourselves the chance to address and process what’s really going on and GROW from the experience.
When we’re willing to face the issues, big or small, we start the process of clearing out our mental and emotional space. This is where inner-outer transformation begins and is a valuable part of your self-discovery process.
So what is the junk around your goal and how is it holding you back?
Whatever comes up, ask yourself: is it really true?
If you’d like help to gain clarity or any issue that is causing you emotional overwhelm then don’t hesitate to contact me for a free consultation.
Wishing all the best for 2016 and much love,
xo